Move Past Fear and Become a Powerful Public Speaker

The fear of public speaking is the most common phobia. It has been said that people fear public speaking more then they fear death. Although that may sound extreme most people aren’t faced with death at the next sales meeting and so the speaking fear is more real and more immediate.

Many people make their fear worse by their behavior. If a person with performance Anxiety forces themselves to speak in an effort to move past their fear, what likely will happen is reinforcement of the negative feeling and the more it is reinforced the worse it will become.

Another way you might make this fear worse is by avoidance. This often starts in school, by selecting classes where there is no speaking required or choosing a career where speaking and presenting is not necessary. When you have a fear and you avoid the thing that triggers your fear, once again you are reinforcing the message to your mind that you can’t do presentations and so the fear becomes more imbedded. The best way to move past a fear or phobia of this type is to clear it out on a subconscious level where fears are stored.

When I work with clients who have this fear we start by clearing out old experiences that may retrigger the fear. By moving past the initial cause of the fear you begin to gain more control. The initial cause could be having a panic attack when giving a presentation in school, or perhaps a speech in college or simply introducing yourself in a meeting. Fear of public speaking is not a fear that you are born with since we are born with only two fears, fear of falling and fear of loud noises. Every other fear is taught or learned. Once the triggers are removed we can work on developing the skills and confidence to not only be able to speak, but to become an engaging and exciting speaker.

Entrepreneurs who Struggle with Guilt and Regret

People who sell a product or service risk a part of themselves every day. They risk self esteem, self confidence their perceived income. This comes at a price for many in sales. It can be empowering to be completely responsible for your level of income. However when things are not going well it can also be terrifying.

Sales people or entrepreneurs who under perform have some emotional consequences along with the obvious financial ones. The most debilitating emotions for many in sales are feelings of guilt and regret. Most of these negative feelings originate in under performing and feeling responsible for under performing. Since you are responsible for your income than of course if income is low you are responsible.

By performing up to your standards you will alleviate guilt and regret. So how do you accomplish that goal? Here are some simple steps that will help:

  1. Make sure your standards are realistic. People in the field of sales can tend to set very high goals. These goals are not unrealistic for some or in a specific time frame. But for you they might not be correct.
  2. Once you have a realistic goal, now determine what the obstacles are to completion.
  3. Write out a plan to move past the obstacles.
  4. Get feedback and determine what needs to change.
  5. Move forward and feel the positive feeling that accomplishing a goal gives you.
  6. Now move on to the next one.

The best way to alleviate feelings of guilt and regret is to accomplish what you set out to do. By taking control of your goals you gain control over negative emotions as well. Take back control and your negative emotions like guilt and regret will be a thing of the past.

 

 

Stress and the Body/Mind

The health of the body is directly linked to the mind. Mind body science is making major leaps in our understanding of the relationship of mind/body and the impact we can have on our physical health through our mind/body system.In a recently published study, researchers found that depression-related stress results in the significant shortening of telomeres–the caps at the ends of chromosomes–an indication of accelerated aging!The publication of this study stresses the importance of minimizing the impact of internal and environmental stress on the body. An estimated 75-90% of visits to primary care physicians are now related to the effects of stress, and this new study documents how lethal stress can be to our well-being and longevity.

Of course not all stress is bad.  The stress of exercise or learning a new sport are actually seen as positive stress which results in less inflammation and stress on the body. It is our perception of the stress that often times create the negative reality.

One of the best ways to create less stress in the body and mind is to take a mental vacation.  Whether through meditation or self-hypnosis, this mental break will allow your mind and body to deeply rest.

When I work with clients who are not dealing well with stress, I help them to get into hypnosis. Self hypnosis creates the same health benefits as meditation since it takes place in the same brain wave state. However, for those who have a difficult time learning or committing to meditation the process is easier. During the hypnosis process they learn more quickly and easily and will have post hypnotic suggestions which then help them to use the positive suggestions during their waking day. In this way they will not need to remember to stress less about work or the kids or money. Instead they will automatically feel more in control. When someone feels more in control of their life they have less negative impact from stress.

I know it works because I have seen thousands of people feel better, more in control and less stressed in my practice. Every day I see clients who are going through difficult times and are now better equipped to deal with a negative situation and more resilient in life.

 

Stress Management using Hypnosis

According to the American Medical Association approximately 80% of the patients who visit an internal medicine doctor are there due to the long term effects of stress. Long term chronic stress or a person’s perception of the stress causes a great deal of physical damage and is underlying almost all disease. Symptoms like headaches, back pain, stomach problems, rapid heart rate, fatigue, nervous habits, cognitive problems and the list goes on and on.

Stress is a normal physical response to an event or problem that makes you feel threatened or overwhelmed. Our nervous system is sensitive to danger in order to keep us safe. But the same system that helps us avoid physical danger can be the system that creates long term chronic stress and damages our mind and body.

When the fight or flight response kicks in we are sent into a focused, energetic and alert state. This state can help you to meet challenges, make you sharp when doing presentations, help you to react quickly in an accident or other dangerous situation. However the problems arise when we stay in this state too much or when every little thing that goes wrong sends us into hyper drive. When adrenaline and cortisol are released constantly the damage it does to the body is extreme. Over time it will damage and inflame every system of your body and this includes the brain. Things like memory problems, the inability to concentrate, seeing only the negative and constant poor judgment are directly related to chronic or high levels of stress.

To break this pattern, it is important to take back some control. Using hypnosis to calm the central nervous system is the first step I take with my clients. Then we work to change their thinking regarding the stressors in their life. Alleviating negative habits like procrastination, too much alcohol, improving sleep and connecting more to others will make a big impact on the perception of stress. Also to be able to self-soothe is incredibly important to the reduction of stress.

You have more control then you might think. The simple realization that you are in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. So do something that makes you feel in control and you will feel your sense of well-being grow.

Fear during Swimming for Triathletes

Fear of water is something that many people have either due to a previous near drowning incident or simply because as a child they never became familiar with water during play. Fear of swimming in a triathlon however is usually a totally different kind of fear.
Sometimes, it is more about a feeling of overwhelm. Other times it could be from the crowds and fear of being hit while in the water (a very real possibility). Other times it could be from a negative experience of exhaustion while out in deep water. Still other times it could be the athlete pushing themselves to do a sport that they don’t like in order to compete in a triathlon. Another possibility is the fear of failure creating Anxiety and that feeling can be transformed into panic.
hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help in all of these instances. When I work with a triathlete we start by finding out the underlying cause. Whether it is actually a fear of the water or something else that is causing the problem. Once we have determined where the fear is coming from we can change and reframe the problem.
We first start by calming the nervous system and allowing the person to feel that they have permission to relax. Too often driven individuals don’t allow themselves to relax because they feel that it is not moving them toward their goal. The fact is that by taking time everyday to relax and diffuse stress and Anxiety they gain the ability to perform at a higher level without all the tension. Olympic athletes know that if they become too tense they will not perform at peak. Physically it is impossible to perform well when physically tense. Mental tension creates physical tension. We then move on to clearing the subconscious mind of unrealistic fears and anxiety. This allows the athlete to feel more calm and in control. Finally we use mental rehearsal during hypnosis. When a swimmer is able to see his/her self successfully completing the race feeling calm and focused during hypnosis they will find that when they actually do the swim it feels familiar and much more comfortable.
By taking charge of the mind and allowing the mind and body to work together seamlessly, the athlete has a much better experience. They feel in control, calm, comfortable and their performance will improves too!