Does it sometimes feel as though you are two very different people? Well that’s because you are. Self-sabotage is at the most basic level a tug-of- war between the conscious and subconscious minds.
The conscious mind is the part of your mind that sets goals, analyzes information and then takes action using will-power and self-discipline. The problem arises when the subconscious mind is not on board with the action you want to take. The subconscious is the part of your mind where feelings and emotions come from, so if you want to reach a sales goal consciously, but your feelings are not aligned with that goal they will stop you from moving forward. Self sabotage is ultimately due to lack of self worth, self-esteem, and self confidence.
The specific ways that people sabotage themselves probably falls into one of these 4 categories.
- Fear of success. Deep inside, there can be numerous reasons you do not want to succeed. These are referred to as limiting beliefs. You must overcome these limiting beliefs and break free from your fear of success.
- Unworthiness. Unworthiness is the belief or feeling that you do not deserve success. This is due to low self-esteem and or a poor self-image. Build your self-esteem and realize that you are not only worthy of success, but it is your right to live in abundance and pursue happiness.
- Lack of belief in abilities. Do you not believe that you have what it takes to succeed? Do you think your goals are too far-fetched or unrealistic? Rather than lower your goals, increase your self-confidence and your belief in your ability to succeed.
- Working against true desires. Many people never figure out what their true desires in life are. These are the people who think they know what they want, but never end up getting it due to self-sabotage. Well known examples are college drop-outs who choose majors based on what a parent wants them to do or employees who work for paychecks rather than the love of the work. Take the time to figure out what you really want in life and then focus your entire mind on moving towards your true desire.
If you recognize yourself in any of these categories, it’s time to do something to break free of self-sabotage. Resolving the conflict between conscious goals and subconscious feelings is a great place to start. By using hypnosis and NLP you can efficiently and effectively make the changes you desire.